Who to talk to for bereavement support
If you would like support or advice on who you can talk to, please:
- Call Norfolk Carers Support on 01603 219924
- or Carers Agency Partnership Helpline on 0808 808 9876.
Download free bereavement support guide
The NHS Health Scotland have provided this useful resource for talking about bereavement. Please click on the link below and read through if this could be of help to you.
Who needs bereavement support?
Many people require bereavement support throughout their life at different stages and for different reasons. Commonly, we associate bereavement with the loss of a family member, this may be a grandparents, parents or siblings. Everybody has their own way of coping, a young adult may react very differently to loss than widow after years of marriage, there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ with bereavement.
Outside of the immediate family and sometimes overlooked are those that experience loss while in a professional capacity. It is not uncommon for healthcare professionals such as nurses, hospice staff or carers to need help coping with bereavement.
While there are also extreme cases of those experiencing loss suddenly or unexpectedly, such as through the loss of a baby or an early death due to cancer may also require support dealing with the shock and bereavement, it should be realised that those needed bereavement support are all equally deserving. If you feel like you need support or just want someone to talk to, please get in contact so we can put you in touch with someone that can help.
What is bereavement?
Bereavement is the word we use to describe the period and stages of grief we go through when we have lost a loved one. The word itself actually comes from an ancient German word for ‘seize’ and ‘violence’, which somewhat aptly matches the descriptions people give for the feeling of losing someone in their life.
The emotions felt during this period can range greatly from anger, guilt and frustration to sadness and anxiety.
Coping with bereavement
When you lose somebody close to you, it is important to understand that you are not trying to ‘recover’, as this would suggest that you would be the same as before the loss. In fact, experiences shape you as a person and bereavement is about accepting what happened and learning to adjust your life without that person while keeping their memory alive. Throughout this time, it is very important that we find a way to express our feelings and allow mourning to happen.
It is not unusual to experience big swings in emotions, some days you may be feeling fine and then seemingly out of nowhere you are hit by grief.
This may cause you to:
- Feel like you’re not able to cope with work
- Not taking good care of yourself such as not eating properly or washing
- Taking out your negative feelings on others
- Not feeling able to get out of bed to face life
These are all quite normal and natural feelings when someone is going through bereavement and the process of experiencing the pain associated is part of the healing process.